Let’s be real - most people aren’t used to having a camera on them all day. Unless you’re a model or an actor, it’s completely normal to feel a little awkward or unsure at first. That’s one of the first things that many couples tell me: “We’re not photogenic” or “We feel weird in front of the camera.”
Here’s the thing though - you don’t need to be photogenic. You just need to feel like yourself. And that’s where the right photographer makes all the difference.
After years of photographing weddings all over the world, I’ve learned that helping people feel comfortable isn’t about giving them the perfect pose. It’s about creating the right energy. So if you’re worried about feeling stiff or camera-shy on your wedding day, here’s what actually helps.
Know That It’s About the Real Moments, Not Performance
In my opinion, the secret to feeling comfortable in front of the camera is realizing that I’m not there to direct your every move - I’m there to capture the real flow of the day. The way you two look at each other. The way your people surround you. The way love shows up in all those small, honest moments.
I’ll guide you when needed, sure - but mostly, I want to see you as you are. My job is to highlight that love and to preserve it in a way that feels true to who you are. You don’t need to perform for the camera. You just need to be present with the people you love. That’s where the magic is.
Choose a Photographer You Actually Connect With
Your photos will feel natural when you feel natural around the person taking them. If you feel judged, rushed, or disconnected, it’s going to show in every frame. So beyond just liking someone’s work, ask yourself - do I feel relaxed around them? Do I trust them to guide me through one of the most emotional days of my life? That connection shows up in the photos.
Let Go of the Need to Pose
You don’t need to know what to do with your hands. You don’t need to memorize Pinterest poses or rehearse in the mirror. That’s my job. I’ll guide you when it helps and step back when the moment calls for something real.
"The goal isn’t to stage anything - it’s to capture what’s already there."
Focus on Each Other, Not the Camera
The best moments happen when you stop thinking about being photographed. Just be present with your partner. Laugh together. Breathe. Talk. Let it all happen. I’ll throw in a few easy prompts here and there to keep things flowing, but the best shots always come from the in-between moments.
Trust That You’re Already Enough
You don’t need to “look perfect” to have beautiful wedding photos. The wind might (and probably will) mess up your hair. Your dress might (and probably will) get a little dirty. You might laugh harder than you thought you would. And that’s all part of it. Don't stress the small things. Wedding photos aren’t about perfection - they’re about truth, feeling, and connection.
Don’t Overthink It
Overthinking takes you out of the moment. If you're focused on your smile or how you're standing, you're not experiencing the moment. I’ve got you. I’ll make sure the light is good, the framing is right, and the energy is there. You don’t have to think your way into a good photo - you just have to feel your way through your wedding day.
Trust the Process and Let Go
If you’ve hired the right photographer, you can relax. You can trust that even the chaos is being documented with care. You don’t need to be “on” or “ready” at every second. You just need to be present. That’s when the good stuff happens - and that’s what I’ll be there to capture.
Feeling comfortable in front of the camera isn’t about confidence - it’s about trust. It’s about knowing that someone’s there to see you, not stage you. That they’ll capture your day the way it felt, not just how it looked.
If you’re looking for someone who brings calm energy, knows when to guide and when to step back, and genuinely wants to reflect you in the most honest way possible - I’d love to connect.